What’s next on the agenda? What do you continue to bump?

What’s next on the agenda? What do you continue to bump?

Things that are not important and not urgent and often fun, but they can be big time wasters chewing up hours and hours. They are activities akin to chocolate, high calories with no real nutritional benefit. These activities are best either eliminated altogether or, like chocolate eaten on rare occasions, if at all. I know chocolate is hard to give up. It’s this category of things and activities where we tend to default to when we are procrastinating.

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Getting a handle on yourself when the world is in gripped by fear

Getting a handle on yourself when the world is in gripped by fear

We are neurologically hard-wired for fear: It’s part of what has kept us alive. There is, however, a real difference between fear and danger and despite us living in dangerous times, if we let our fears run away with us we will be in a worse state than if we stay on top of our fears. Distinguishing fear from danger makes a huge difference in managing our minds and therefore our ability to cope and act. Even just knowing this can make a difference. Let’s face it, it ain’t easy to be calm when it seems like everyone wants you to join the hysteria.

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Every word you speak is like a prayer to a higher power

Every word you speak is like a prayer to a higher power

very word you utter, carries intent. That intent manifest through words. It is a moment by moment experience that we are always creating. The first building block of our creation is our thoughts, followed by our words, which we declare, and they are our correlate of prayer. This is true, even if, you are not religious or spiritual.

Your words are like tools; the tools of creation. Words are how we call in what we want and how we affirm our reality.

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Saying NO to what you don’t want is like saying YES to eating dark chocolate

Saying NO to what you don’t want is like saying YES to eating dark chocolate

You either learn to say NO, or you fall victim to other people’s agendas or worse their expectations. What happens when they don’t align with your expectations and values? You end up being resentful. There is an old saying about resentment. It goes like this:

Resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.

Learning to say NO is an act of self-care; it’s an act of courage!

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It’s hard to have a compelling vision when you’re down on yourself

It’s hard to have a compelling vision when you’re down on yourself

It is not the goal to eliminate the internal dialogue and getting the inner critic under control is essential both from the perspective of creating a compelling vision and from a practical day to day point of view as nobody is at their best when they are down on themselves. If it is true for you that you wouldn’t tolerate being beaten-up on by others, start to demand the same of yourself. After all, you would accept nothing less from others: Lose the double standard.

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A Word of Encouragement at the Right Time Makes All the Difference

A Word of Encouragement at the Right Time Makes All the Difference

I found myself in a bind between what I was committed to – a natural birth – and caving in. It was at that point that the midwife, my birthing partner, took me by the hand, held my gaze and said. “You’re doing really well, and you’re almost there. You can do this”.

Did it lessen the pain?

No. After all, no one would have blamed me if I had given up on my birthing plan. Not even me. What it did do, in a moment where I could easily have given up was spur me on. The kind and supportive words of a woman who was in truth, a stranger, involved in one of the most intimate of life’s experiences, held the space for me.

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Courage: An antidote for the fear of the unknown

Courage: An antidote for the fear of the unknown

There are no guarantees in life. If you throw your hat in the ring and dare to try something different or create something new, the one thing you can bank on is getting your butt kicked. When you take that as a given, now the choice is simple. Avoid getting your butt kicked, or step onto the court knowing full well you may get a whooping. If not now, it’s coming at some point. And I’m going to do it anyway.

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New Year’s resolutions in a year that heralds in a new decade!

New Year’s resolutions in a year that heralds in a new decade!

Creating milestones on the way to achieving goals is a great way to both keep yourself on track and to keep you focused along the way. They are particularly important if your goal seems a long way off or particularly hard to achieve. Stopping to celebrate your progress at predetermined points will help keep you motivated. Motivation comes and goes, and if you are depending on motivation to carry the day, you’re leaving your success to chance.

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