Own It! Best to BE Accountable before demanding the same! Who Are You Going To Tell? If you ever want to achieve anything, the first step is to tell someone, Accountability! I get paid to be that someone! Seriously, why beat about the bush? I get paid...
As it so happens, when you change your Context magically, you are no longer stuck. You can only achieve so much by DOING things, after all, there are only 24 hours in a day, and most of us need to sleep. You could use a backhoe instead of a shovel, change the plan, change the Context of what you are doing. Another way of expressing this is to change the Context of who you’re a Being, in this case, stop Being a driver and start Being a pedestrian. Note how suddenly there now exists a new universe of possibilities.
Every story needs a hero and a villain. Of course, there is a victor and a victim, as well. Again, just open any history book to see this at play, or any watercooler in any staff room, the same types of narratives are at play. I’ll bet most of the time you cast yourself as the Hero. I know that’s my preferred role. Others prefer to be the victim. That doesn’t belittle the circumstances you might find yourself in. Sometimes situations can be pretty tough. So, there’s NO judgement here. It’s a perfectly human way to be.
It’s counterintuitive Nothing ever changes without Discomfort! Literally nothing, you can't even brush your hair without making some sort of effort! Some discomfort is even comforting, like the muscle ache that comes after exercise…So why are we so down on Discomfort?...
When you are responsible for your choices you don’t disown them down the track or even 5 minutes later. You literally decide and own them UP-Front. That’s the kicker. That’s the piece most of us struggle with or conveniently forget when we change our mind.
What's lurking around the dark recesses of your mind? It's funny what you find when you start poking around in your shed or in your mind. Just recently, I was asked to take on an Integrity Challenge. In this challenge, you create a list of tasks for which you have...
We take things for granted because we experience the benefits of what those before us have fought for. And, we aren’ there yet. Inequality is everywhere. If we are to empower those around us what is foundational is learning to empower ourselves and that, like anything worth having, takes some work to achieve. In an instant gratification world, that isn’t so appealing.
Things that are not important and not urgent and often fun, but they can be big time wasters chewing up hours and hours. They are activities akin to chocolate, high calories with no real nutritional benefit. These activities are best either eliminated altogether or, like chocolate eaten on rare occasions, if at all. I know chocolate is hard to give up. It’s this category of things and activities where we tend to default to when we are procrastinating.
We are neurologically hard-wired for fear: It’s part of what has kept us alive. There is, however, a real difference between fear and danger and despite us living in dangerous times, if we let our fears run away with us we will be in a worse state than if we stay on top of our fears. Distinguishing fear from danger makes a huge difference in managing our minds and therefore our ability to cope and act. Even just knowing this can make a difference. Let’s face it, it ain’t easy to be calm when it seems like everyone wants you to join the hysteria.
Before you can lead anyone, you must first leader yourself. A good leader is a good follower and if you are leading yourself it takes following your values, your heart and your principles to do so. That has nothing to do with playing it safe and everything to do with taking a risk. You do that because you have something at stake.