The power of forgiveness and unity
When experiencing loss it is normal to feel grief. When a loved one is taken from you by force, it is normal to feel anger. Farid Amhed lost his wife, she was one of the victims in the Christchurch massacre. His response is forgiveness.
The pain is connected to the story
We are by nature autobiographical beings we are storytelling animals, we filter our experience and make sense of our world according to our unique point-of-view. The story is always being told from someone’s point of view. What’s more, it is an evolving narrative. In this instance evolve the narrative from victim to victim-no more. This won’t alter the facts about what happened and it will make a profound difference to the experience of the abuse survivor. It is a shift in perspective. The pain lives in the story.
The Power is in the Present moment
Being Present is being here now Human beings are time travellers of sorts; we are rarely present. Instead we travel to the future and back to the past and then back to the future and back to the past, all the while the present moment is squandered. This...
Accountability – It’s a rearguard action
Accountability is a sub-set of responsibility. It is easy to confuse the two; they are related yet distinct and it certainly does not work to have one without the other. Like a wheel on your car they must be in perfect balance in order to work optimally. A little too...
The Link Between Foresight and Responsibility
Remember, the above the line behaviours are pro-active and conscious. This means there is a high level of self-awareness and perhaps even situational awareness. The fact that responsibility is a conscious act makes it possible to predict, (not catastrophize) what is likely to occur given a particular set of circumstances. Further, we are all forced to live the reality we create for others. If I actively and consciously engage in a set of behaviours that are detrimental, then make no mistake, there will be consequences. Those consequences will be reaped and are directly attributable to those actions. The question is how willing are you to responsible for the impact of those behaviours? Responsibility is a willingness to be answerable to or for something. No-one can make you BE responsible. You take that on yourself.
Habits : Whether they are friend or foe can make or break you
New year's resolutions check in. Did you make any New Year's resolutions to change some habits this year? How are they tracking? If you are like most people, by now the resolution has either been thrown out all together or you have given up on them, at least to some...
“True story”, likely story… which is it?
Only things such as the laws of physics are really "true" ...And then only in this Universe!! Human beings love stories. For thousands of years we existed as a purely oral culture and stories were how we kept history alive. Similarly, we are drawn to a “true story”....
New Year’s Resolutions…how are they travelling?
Happy New Year How are the resolutions going. I didn’t make any this year mainly because I’m still working on last years and didn’t need the additional burden! We are funny animals aren’t we! Imagine an alien watching our behaviours and shaking their head, or whatever...
Re-wiring yourself for success
Born helpless Human beings are fragile creatures. We are born helpless and completely dependent upon our care-givers. Countless other animals can walk shortly after birth and in the scheme of things, become self-sufficient relatively quickly. Those types of animals...
5 Simple Ways to Tame Your Mind and BE Calm
You have just one output channel We are tribal animals designed to live in communion with nature and in small groups of about 150 or so. We were never intended to congregate in large numbers, living on top of one another with literally millions crowded into...
