Life is A Series of Windows and Doors

Life is A Series of Windows and Doors

We use the language of windows and doors constantly and there is a very good reason for this. Nearly every body you ask “would you like to know what happens next?” Will say “sure, why not?” Or make a joke about how if they could do that, they wouldn’t be in whatever...

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The quality of your life depends on the stories you tell

The quality of your life depends on the stories you tell

As storytelling animals, we filter our experience and make sense of our world according to our unique perspective and point of view. The problem is our point of view isn’t the only point of view and yet we gather evidence for it and before we know it, it becomes synonymous with how life is. Like all stories, there are good ones and not so good ones. The quality of your life depends on the stories you tell yourself about it.

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Dating: A great metaphor for vulnerability and courage

Dating: A great metaphor for vulnerability and courage

It seems to me that we all want to be known and to be understood. We want to be validated and make our own unique contribution to the world. Why then do we don the ‘mask’ and fail to show up as our most vulnerable selves? Fear of rejection, fear of being laughed at or taken advantage of and so we armour up instead. What we seek to protect ourselves from harms us more.

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The paradox of giving up control to regain control

The paradox of giving up control to regain control

We all have a picture of what it means to be a control freak. It has something to do with an obsessive need for self-control or control over others and situations and an eagerness to take charge of the situation. The alternative is chaos and if you love order, you aren’t going to be that fond of chaos or going with the flow for that matter.

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My Dad Died, and I’m so Glad He Did!

My Dad Died, and I’m so Glad He Did!

Wow, that’s a bit harsh I can hear you say...Let me explain. My Dad was a vibrant fun-loving, quite brilliant man. However, over the past 5-6 years, he has slowly been reduced to a bed-bound breathing corpse incapable of recognising either his wife of 61 years or any...

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Abracadabra: Being your own personal Mage

Abracadabra: Being your own personal Mage

Results are natural outcomes that show up when we follow that formula. You can either use that formula consciously and my recommendation is that you do do that, or you can be used by it. Either way, the results are going to come as you are producing results all the time. If those results are not in line with your stated or desired outcomes, it might pay to take a look at the words you use and how you use them. The actions you take and the results you produce will be directly correlated to the words you speak.

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