Gratitude can ease grief and have a hand in “letting go”
Taking time to honour the process of death and deliberately focus on the life lived can alter your experience and will determine how upset you are every time you remember your loved one. This is what I learned about life and death when I supported my friend when she had to put an end to her beloved dog Murray’s life.
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Integrity, Alignment and Embracing Flow
The state of being whole and complete What is integrity? There are a number of definitions out there. Basically, those definitions fall into two camps: The quality of being honest and having strong moral principles. This is the camp that claims the high moral ground...
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Who is determining your ‘reality’?
Who or what is determining your reality? Unless you have been living under a rock you probably have some awareness or concept of virtual reality (VR). Essentially, virtual reality is an interactive computer generated experience, incorporating visual and auditory...
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“An eye for an eye”- the futility of revenge
The desire for revenge "An eye for an eye", "a tooth for a tooth", is the law of retaliation and the principle that a person who has injured another is to be penalized to a similar degree. Further, the person inflicting such punishment should be the injured party;...
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The power of forgiveness and unity
When experiencing loss it is normal to feel grief. When a loved one is taken from you by force, it is normal to feel anger. Farid Amhed lost his wife, she was one of the victims in the Christchurch massacre. His response is forgiveness.
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The pain is connected to the story
We are by nature autobiographical beings we are storytelling animals, we filter our experience and make sense of our world according to our unique point-of-view. The story is always being told from someone’s point of view. What’s more, it is an evolving narrative. In this instance evolve the narrative from victim to victim-no more. This won’t alter the facts about what happened and it will make a profound difference to the experience of the abuse survivor. It is a shift in perspective. The pain lives in the story.
read moreThe Power is in the Present moment
Being Present is being here now Human beings are time travellers of sorts; we are rarely present. Instead we travel to the future and back to the past and then back to the future and back to the past, all the while the present moment is squandered. This...
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Accountability – It’s a rearguard action
Accountability is a sub-set of responsibility. It is easy to confuse the two; they are related yet distinct and it certainly does not work to have one without the other. Like a wheel on your car they must be in perfect balance in order to work optimally. A little too...
read moreThe Link Between Foresight and Responsibility
Remember, the above the line behaviours are pro-active and conscious. This means there is a high level of self-awareness and perhaps even situational awareness. The fact that responsibility is a conscious act makes it possible to predict, (not catastrophize) what is likely to occur given a particular set of circumstances. Further, we are all forced to live the reality we create for others. If I actively and consciously engage in a set of behaviours that are detrimental, then make no mistake, there will be consequences. Those consequences will be reaped and are directly attributable to those actions. The question is how willing are you to responsible for the impact of those behaviours? Responsibility is a willingness to be answerable to or for something. No-one can make you BE responsible. You take that on yourself.
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Habits : Whether they are friend or foe can make or break you
New year's resolutions check in. Did you make any New Year's resolutions to change some habits this year? How are they tracking? If you are like most people, by now the resolution has either been thrown out all together or you have given up on them, at least to some...
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